If you believe this doesn’t exist, think for a minute about psychological affairs.

If you believe this doesn’t exist, think for a minute about psychological affairs.

Myth no. 6: All non-monogamous people are kinky

I’m getnna go ahead a directly blame the news when it comes to assumption that, you must also be deeply kinky if you practice non- monogamy. Can the 2 occur together? Yes. Yet not always.

First, non-monogamy is certainly not kink in and of it self. Nevertheless when individuals think about non-monogamy, their minds head to one spot – fast. Intercourse! If monogamy is categorized by devoid of intercourse with everybody, then non-monogamy must certanly be about making love with everyone, appropriate? It should be about threesomes, and foursomes, and team intercourse, and orgies, and swingers events with fire respiration, leather clad jugglers in nipple clamps moving through the chandeliers.

Um…no. The stark reality is usually a lot more tame.

Non-monogamy merely means, as we’ve discussed, the capability to be with additional than just one single individual. It will not signify one is fundamentally with numerous partners simultaneously. It doesn’t imply that one is necessarily having sex that is indiscriminate. And it also does not always mean that certain is, while having indiscriminate intercourse with multiple lovers simultaneously, additionally strapped towards the bed with fabric cuffs in nipple clamps and a crystal butt plug.

Is one to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship and a crystal butt plug during the time that is same? Yes. But one could in the same way easily exercise relationship anarchy while being positively vanilla (or not- kinky, for anyone whom didn’t read 50 tones) along with partners they have a go at.

The news could have you genuinely believe that we’re all leather clad in feather masks flouncing around at play parties breaking our cycling plants (and ok, perhaps many of us have now been recognized to play that is frequent breaking riding plants) but still, kink is unique thing, in its very own right, totally split from non-monogamy and, no, don’t assume all non-monogamous person is into “butt stuff.” Let’s just go full ahead and clear that up at this time. Continue reading